Wednesday, March 6, 2013

WHAT MATTERS MOST


Aloha Ohana,
Just found this story and video and wanted to share with all of you, this great message of not losing sight of what matters most. It is so easy for us to get sidetracked by things in our everyday lives and take our eyes off the most divine, precious, and important matters. May we always remember, "WHAT MATTERS MOST!!"



The Story of the Lightbulb


On a dark December night 36 years ago, a Lockheed 1011 jumbo jet crashed into the Florida Everglades, killing over 100 people. This terrible accident was one of the deadliest crashes in the history of the United States.
A curious thing about this accident is that all vital parts and systems of the airplane were functioning perfectly—the plane could have easily landed safely at its destination in Miami, only 20 miles away.
During the final approach, however, the crew noticed that one green light had failed to illuminate—a light that indicates whether or not the nose landing gear has extended successfully. The pilots discontinued the approach, set the aircraft into a circling holding pattern over the pitch-black Everglades, and turned their attention toward investigating the problem.
They became so preoccupied with their search that they failed to realize the plane was gradually descending closer and closer toward the dark swamp below. By the time someone noticed what was happening, it was too late to avoid the disaster.
After the accident, investigators tried to determine the cause. The landing gear had indeed lowered properly. The plane was in perfect mechanical condition. Everything was working properly—all except one thing: a single burned-out lightbulb. That tiny bulb—worth about 20 cents—started the chain of events that ultimately led to the tragic death of over 100 people.
Of course, the malfunctioning lightbulb didn’t cause the accident; it happened because the crew placed its focus on something that seemed to matter at the moment while losing sight of what mattered most.







Monday, September 24, 2012

Grandpa Sproat


Aloha 'Ohana,
Here is an article that was written back in 1985 by a group that visited with Gramps.  He was 84 at this time.  Enjoy!

Sproat, Bill: And I Been Going Yet, June 1985

Author: 
 A visit with Uncle Bill Sproat of Pololū Valley – June 1985

 
Photo: Kīhei de Silva
“This mountain is a rare article.” Uncle Bill Sproat on the lawn in front of his home at Pololū Valley.
Photo: Leimomi Khan.
Uncle Bill and guests, June 1985. Front: Leimomi Khan, Jan Yoneda, Pat Nāmaka Bacon. Back: Māpuana de Silva, Kana‘e Keawe, Edith McKinzie, Moana Stender, Laua‘e Adam, Keahi Allen, Kīhei de Silva, Bill Sproat, Cy Bridges, Kalena Silva.
We carry a blue chair down from his front porch and set it in the shade of the guava trees in his front lawn. It is midmorning and Keahi Allen has driven us from our hula workshop at Kalōpā, Hāmākua, all the way to the end of the road at North Kohala to visit with this old-timer.
His is the last house before Pololū Valley drops into the ocean, and from the lookout across the street we can see the beginning of the Hawai'i Island equivalent of Kaua'i's Nā Pali coast. Thousands of Hawaiians used to live here; his people were among them. The valleys were filled from mouth to four miles inland with lo'i kalo. An entire valley - Honokānewai, the second one in - was deeded to his family at the time of the Māhele.
He was born here, "up at Māhiki; so you see I belong to this island." He grew up here, and down at Kawaihae, and a little bit at Kamehameha Schools (until he left because he and his teachers "didn't see eye to eye" over what a Hawaiian was). He worked for 40 years as the keeper of the 22 mile-long Kohala Ditch Trail - an engineering marvel built in 1903 to carry 50 million gallons of water a day out of the mountains to water the plantations of the dry Kohala coast. He spent eight more years as chief of the Hawaiian Village at the Polynesian Cultural Center in Lā'ie ("I only wanted to stay for two years, but then my mo'opuna started to go to college there, and I couldn't run away from them"). And now he's home.
He appears at the back corner of his house with a load of orange carpet-runners in his arms. "You don't want to sit on the wet grass while I tell my stories," he says, "or you'll get what we call kawaū ka 'okole."
When we're comfortably arranged at his feet, he sits down and dries his hands on his knees. His pants ride up a bit, and I can see, between the hem of his left trouser leg and the rim of his black sock, three inches of shiny plastic leg.
His blue-and-white baseball cap reads, "Sproat's Pololū Valley Ranches, Kohala, Hawai'i." He is the family patriarch - William K. Sproat - "the K is for Kāneakalā, my mother's name." Uncle Bill. He talks almost without interruption for almost two hours. Only once or twice does he repeat himself, and his stories are such that repetition is welcome. Twice his friendly part-Doberman nudges up to him and rolls on his feet. The dog is shooed off: "Scram and get outa here; you're interrupting me." But there is nothing mean in his tone, only firmness and love. This, I suspect, is how he treats all living things: people, his dogs, and above all, his mules.
When the talk is over, he invites us into the house he's built ("Not bad for living in the sticks...you know some people think I'm crazy to live out here alone"), and then he takes us into his back yard so that he can pick gardenias for all the ladies. On the way to our vans, he points out a young 'ulu tree that is already thick and bursting with life and leaves. "I must've done something right with that one," he says. "It's my mark on this place." That's the least of the marks you'll leave, I think to myself as I shake his hand good-bye.
What follows are Uncle Bill's words. Not all of them, but enough to treasure him by.

This mountain is a rare article. The make-up of the mountain is such that it is a little reservoir. We have what the geologists refer to as a dike system in this mountain. These dikes were formed by volcanic pressure. You know how a volcano builds mountains? One flow on top of another. Well, when this volcano was getting ready to quit, the interval between the flows became so long that the crust in the crater became so thick that when it became active it couldn't shove the molten stuff straight up into the crater, so it just shoved it up in perpendicular strata. So we have a dike system.
You go up these gulches and you'll see dikes only about 12 to 14 inches thick. But that rock, because it's been shoved up with such terrific pressure, is so dense that it is impervious to water. So before these gulleys were worn down, I'm talking about eons ago, this mountain was all divided up into water-bearing compartments by these dikes. And this being the second wettest spot in the world, the rains eventually filled up these compartments. And when they overflowed, that's what caused these gulches: the water continuously flowing down. And that's B.H. - before Hawaiians.
When the Hawaiians came here, soil had formed in the gulches, so they terraced off all the bottoms and made taro patches because the water was continuously running - good for taro. So all the valleys from here to Waipi'o were all like that. One time, people lived in all of them. I wasn't here, but let me tell you the evidence. We go to the second valley, the one where the most water is. We have every available space in the valley, and that valley is quite wide, every available space was terraced off in taro patches from seashore to four miles up in the mountains. Even where the ditch is at the 1000 foot level. It was all taro, and that's what made big Hawaiians out of little ones: kalo.
My mother's family owned most of that valley; they were given it by the chiefs. We still own some of it, but when the missionaries took over - that's some dirty guys - where my grandmother's house is now, if she didn't have a stone wall around her house that covers four acres, she would've been like my mother's grandfather; all he got was one acre of his own land, I mean on the record. So all we own down there is five acres now. If my grandmother didn't have that wall, she would've gotten one acre, too. That's what the missionaries did to us. Had some dirty louts among the missionaries. They were not all angels.
My mother's folks grew up in the valley here. My mother was born in the valley here. And when the white man came and kind of changed the whole set up here, the young men got in the ships and went away. I have three uncles I never even saw. I heard they're in New York somewhere. And the women married other men and moved out of the mountain, too, so bimeby nobody lived in the mountains here.
My dad is a haole. He came here to overthrow the monarchy, that dirty lout. But he meant well. He come over here from Missouri. All his family was doing was farming, and because he was the youngest son, he thought he would see the world instead of farm. His idea of "go see the world" was to go up to Alaska, look for gold. So he said he was walking along the waterfront in San Francisco looking for a ship to go to Alaska when two men came up to him and asked him if he wanted to go to Hawai'i to join the P.G. Army that later overthrew the queen. He was one of 'em. I got it straight from the horse's mouth.
Of course, he didn't know who Lili'uokalani was; he just came here for the adventure. But when he got down here and found out what they were up to, he felt a little sick. He was a good American and believed in people's rights, and here they were taking everything away from the Hawaiians. So he got out of the army as soon as he could.
So he and another guy, a Texan who felt the same way he did, decided that they would sail down to Tahiti. So they bought themselves a schooner. And neither one of them knew how to navigate, so they hired themselves a sea captain by the name of Goode. But he wasn't good enough. No, he was, but it wasn't his fault. They got hit by a hurricane and broke both masts. They just drifted for almost three months. They drifted clean back here and wrecked on the Kona coast.
They got ashore with only the shirts on their backs. They decided to split up. He came this way. He walked clear to Kohala and it took him almost five days. But he said that Hawaiians lived all along the coast. They saw what they called this "lonely haole," and he looked hungry, I guess, so they took care of him. Then he got here and got a job on the plantation.
He didn't tell them he was only going to stay a few months, so when he got enough money he took off for Honolulu. Because he was a soldier in the P.G. Army, they gave him a job on the police force.
Now my mother was a school teacher here. She went to school under the missionaries and then taught school in the valley - that's how many people were around here in them days. The kids from up here had to go down there to go to school. And so she went to Honolulu for some school work and met my dad, and they got married in January of 1900. My mother never liked it there and finally talked him into moving back to this island. So he bought 30 acres in Waimea. Sorry we never kept it. It'd be worth quite a bit of money these days.
I grew up part of my life in Kawaihae because my mother made the mistake of taking my dad down there to recuperate from a little touch of pneumonia that he had. When he saw the fishing boats, he went into the fishing business. So I grew up part of my life in Kawaihae, but I enjoyed that. It was good at the kahakai.
By that time had no more schools over here, so I went to Kamehameha. We'd go there and then come back in the summer time. I never quite got out of Kamehameha. I quit. The teachers and I didn't see eye to eye. But my other sisters and brothers, they went high. One sister went to Columbia University, one went to University of Pennsylvania. Two brothers graduated from University of Hawai'i. Me, I just quit.
But when I took my dad's job up here, see, you gotta know something about water and civil engineering. So I had to go learn some more. I took side lessons. I was in charge here for forty years, so I been around for a while.
This Anna Lindsey's husband, his father is the one that built the ditch. That was in 1903. See, all these people had plantations: there were five mills in this district. One belonged to the Hind family...they built the ditch because they needed the water when it was dry. And they built quite a ditch. There's 12 miles in the mountains and 10 miles out here - 22 miles of ditch. And in the mountains, 12 miles of it is all tunnel. And to cover that tunnel we have 40 miles of mule trail.
The tunnel is big enough to bring out 50 million gallons of water a day. You can go up in the tunnel on a boat. It's a great engineering feat built on one-tenth of one percent. You know what that is? 1000 feet you go, only one foot difference in slope. Almost flat. That's why you could push a boat up. But when you put 50 million gallons in there, you don't walk up that current very far. Cut it down to 35 million. That's about waist deep, and you can push a boat up it. And so we take all our heavy freight into the mountains by tunnel. And when you come down, you just sit and play 'ukulele.
So this tunnel was built by the Hinds and this Anna Lindsey's father-in-law, Perry, was the guy that built the ditch. And he was the first superintendent here till my dad came up. He was ready to quit, so my dad took the job, and I inherited it from my dad. I worked from '28 to '68, that's how long I worked here.
They still work the trail, but they threw away that ten miles up at 2000 elevation. From 'Awili on they throw away. You see, there's seven main valleys from here to Waipi'o. This is Pololū; the next one is Honokānenui. That is the main one on this side; it comes up and almost meets Waipi'o at the top of the mountain. That's why this valley has enough water for what the county now needs without taking water from farther back. What they take now is nothing compared to what the plantations used to take.
When I used to live in the valley, Honokāneiki, the third one in, we raised pigs, we went fishing, we planted all we needed. I was practically what they call "self-sufficient." I had cows. I milked my own cows. I had pigs. I killed my own pigs. We had no refrigeration then, so I salted them. I make dry meat; I make all kinds. And fish. When we wanted fish, no more refrigerator, just take your bamboo and go down there and come home with two moi about that size (gestures from finger-tip to elbow); that's all you need. Had one point down there: talk about ulua. Just go there, cast: all kinds.
The biggest ulua we caught was 103 pounds. But this kind you don't want; that's just like catching a pig when you catch one that size. But you need one only about like this (same gesture: finger to elbow). And there's plenty of those and easy to catch: you just go near the rocks, see, the big ones don't go there. You catch those five, six, ten pound kind. O, I never lived higher on the hog than when I lived in Kāneiki. Talk about eggs. I used to give away to the Japanese by the bucket. I had cows. I put all the milk in the yard for the chickens, and the cats, and the dogs. And we had gardens there...raised all the vegetables you could want.
These are the valleys: Pololū, Honokānenui, Honokāneiki, Honoke'a, Honopo'e, then you jump clean across to Waimanu. There's a long stretch there where a lot of little gulleys come down. But they are not cut down to sea level. And between Waimanu and Waipi'o there's 13 little gulleys like that. And the three rocks out in the ocean down there are called Nā Moku. They all have names. Paokalani is one, but I can't think of the others. One has a puka right through it; you can't see it from here; it's outside of the big rock, and we used to go there on the canoes. It's the home of the ulua over there. No can think of the other's names. I'm getting old, I guess. I've been away too long. You know when you come back, you don't talk like you talked to the old Hawaiians. You called everything by name, but now nobody knows the difference.
I lost my leg right up here, practically, when I worked the trail. I got on my mule at my brother's place. And this was kind of an outlaw mule, anyhow, that I bought from somebody. I used to make that my business. See, my dad was from Missouri and he claimed that he was part mule because they raised mules. Mules - you always hear them talking about mules being mean. But really, mules are smart. They're so smart that they're smarter than most people. When you hear a guy that says a mule is mean, it's because he's dumber than the mule. The mule is smarter than him. When a mule knows that he can't get away with bluffing you, he'll do what you want him to do.
So this one I bought was one of those big husky mules. Nobody wanted him, so I bought him. I used to ride him up there, but one day he left his mark on me. I put the saddle on...my fault because I wasn't careful enough. I put my foot in the stirrup and jumped on. He started to buck, and I bounced behind the saddle, on his 'okole. It's bad enough when you're in the saddle, but when you're on the 'okole, he can really buck. And he threw me when he started running down the hill.
As I went off, one foot was still in the stirrup. I saw a rock, and I tried not to dive into it. I went over the rock, but my foot got caught behind it. I lay there on my face, but I didn't feel too hurt. I turned over; when I lifted this leg, the bone came out. They flew me to a hospital in Honolulu, but they couldn't put the leg back again, so they cut the leg off. But I get along fine with this leg.
So when I came back, my boss said, "You not going ride up the mountain no more now." I said, "Oh no; you don't tell me what to do. You may be my boss, but I'm going up the mountain." So he said, "All right; you do what you want to do."
So I did everything I did before with my one leg - one good leg. And I been going yet. And here I'm eighty, going to eight-three now, and still going. I ride mule and I do everything yet.

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

WHERE HAS THE TIME GONE???

It seems as if the year 2012 just got underway and we are already past the halfway mark with the end of the year not only in sight but, closing in on us quickly (WHEW). Our July visiting teaching message was entitled, Always in the Middle, by President Uchtdorf.

He said, "July marks the middle of the year and while beginnings and endings of things are celebrated and remembered, the middle of things often goes unnoticed. Beginnings are times for making resolutions, for creating plans, for bursts of energy. Endings are times for winding down and may involve feelings of completion or loss. But with the proper outlook, considering ourselves as in the middle of things can help us not only to understand life a little better but also to live it a little more meaningfully."  
"Being always in the middle means that the game is never over, hope is never lost, defeat is never final.  For no matter where we are or what our circumstances, an eternity of beginnings and an eternity of endings stretch out before us. We are always in the middle."


So, why am I mentioning this you ask? well, we are right in the middle of the year and this is not the time for us to relax or become complacent but, as President Uchtdorf mentions, we need to continue to work hard. This is a good time to re-take our spiritual checklist and determine if there has been any improvement since the last time. 


SPIRITUAL CHECKLIST
1. Do you have your daily personal prayers both morning and night?
2. Do you have daily family prayers both morning and night?
3. Do you have daily personal scripture study?
4. Do you have daily family scripture study?
5. Are you holding weekly family home evening? 
6. If you are a temple member, do you have a current recommend? 
7. If you are a temple member, have you gone to the temple at least once this year?
8. Do you hold a position in your ward? (Visiting teacher/Hometeacher)
9. Do you serve the Lord faithfully to the best of your ability?
10. Are you a full tithe payer?
11. Do you have a picture of the Savior in your home?
12. Do you have a picture of the temple in you home?
13. Do you keep the sabbath day holy?
14. Do you want your score to improve?



Well, how did you do??  If you've done better GREAT!! If you did some backsliding, that's alright just don't dwell on the past. Pick yourself up and do your best TODAY. 


"Yes there will be moments of beginnings and moments of endings throughout our lives, these are only markers along the way of the great middle of our eternal lives. Wether we are at the beginning or the end, young or old, the Lord can use us for His purposes if we simply set aside whatever thoughts limit our ability to serve and allow His will to shape our lives. 


President Uchtdorf








Tuesday, January 10, 2012

HAPPY NEW YEAR

I hope everyone is off to a wonderful NEW YEAR in 2012. Have you been thinking of some new goals to work on for the new year? It is a great way to develop and improve ourselves. If you haven't done so already, holding a goal setting FHE is a good place to start.  Elder Russell M. Ballard has said:

 
"Often the lack of clear direction and goals can waste away our time and energy and contribute to imbalance in our lives. A life that gets out of balance is much like a car tire that is out of balance.  It will make the operation of the car rough and unsafe. Tires in perfect balance can give a smooth and comfortable ride.  So it is with life.  The ride through mortality can be smoother for us when we strive to stay in balance.  Our main goal should be to seek "immortality and eternal life" (Moses 1:39).  With this as our goal, why not eliminate from our lives the things that clamor for and consume our thoughts, feelings, and energies without contributing to our reaching that goal?"

We can begin in Luke 2:52 which say's: "And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and man." This scripture gives us 4 primary areas of focus to live a balanced life. This scripture mentions wisdom or intellectual, stature or physical, favour with God or spiritual, and with man or social.  So, setting intellectual, physical, spiritual, and social goals will help us be better rounded sons and daughters of God.

Here are some helpful fundamental things to remember which I found about setting S.M.A.R.T. goals.


Specific- Setting a specific goal has a better chance of being accomplished than a general one. Example: A general goal would be, I want to get in shape. A specific goal would be, I will join a gym and work out 3 days a week.

Measurable- President Thomas S. Monson has said, "Where performance is measured, performance improves." Establish criteria for measuring your progress toward your goals. Writing in a journal daily or reporting to a family member or friend are some ways to keep track of your daily progress.


Achievable- Remember to set goals that are attainable, goals that we can realistically reach. We won't stick to those goals that seem out of our reach.

Relevant- Set goals based on their order of importance to you in your life. Also, make sure the goal is relevant to what you can control. For example, don't set a goal that William will go to the prom with you.  You cannot control what William does.  Instead, your goal can be, I will ask William to the prom.

Timely- A goal must have a definitive time frame to be accomplished. A good example of this is when President Hinckley challenged the Church in August of 2005 to read the entire Book of Mormon by the end of the year. That gave many people the motivation to up their scripture study performance because of it. If President Hinckley had just said, read the Book of Mormon, it would not have had the same effect.

It is said that to make something a habit we need to do it 21 days straight without missing a day. Here are a few book marks, and calendars that may be useful to you in setting and keeping track of your goals for the new year.  GOOD LUCK TO ALL!!



One quick story.......On Fast Sunday there was a brother that bore his testimony in our ward that had a good message that I took to heart and I thought I would share it with everyone. This brother said that he had been diagnosed with diabetes about 10 years ago and had been taking insulin everyday since then.  One day he was outside and stopped to pray about his health.  All of a sudden he said that he heard an audible voice say to him, "What are you willing to do!" From that day on he began to make little changes and before he knew it the doctor needed to cut his medicine in half.  Today he is completely off his insulin and does not need to take it any longer.

This made me think of the many times I ask Heavenly Father for things and drop the ball by not doing my part in meeting Him halfway.  May we all take this message to heart as we prayerfully set goals for the new year.  Remember the Lord's promise in Ether 12:27,

 "And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them."       




                                                         WE CAN DO IT!




Sunday, December 11, 2011

A Greater Testimony

I heard this story for the first time in my elders quorum meeting.A missionary by the name of Elder Stoeher shared this story with us.After he was done with the story there wasn't a dry eye in the room.Then I heard it again earlier this year in our gospel doctorine class.And the same thing happend again there wasn't a dry eye in the room.This story is one of my favorite stories of all time.I forgot that Elder Stoeher gave us copies of the story.I found it while I was cleaning out my scriptures.And this story just shows how much the savior suffered and it also shows how much he loves us.My testimony has grown much more since I heard this story.You guys might have heard this story but it goes like this

       This story begins in the year nineteen hundred and ninety seven in the seminary class of brother Mac. Bro. Mac had a bunch of donuts that he had gotten a hold of.As to be expected the kids hit him up for donuts. "Bro. Mac. Can we have a donut?"
"Yes as soon as we get class started." So they began to start class. They sang the song and gave the thought and then Bro. Mac read the scripture. It was John chapter 3 verse 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
        Brother Mac started to give donuts out. He started in the back corner of the room with the window next to a desk occupied by John. (now John was not an out going person, plus he was really skinny and not that popular.) Bro. Mac said "John would you like a donut?" Yea he replied. Would you do 10 push-ups for it? "Ok" so he drops and  dose 10 push-ups.
         Cindy would you like a donut? Yes
          John would you do 10 push-ups so Cindy can have a donut. Not expecting this John says umm... yea so he dose 10 push-ups
         Mary would you like a donut? Yes
          John would you do 10 push-ups so Mary can have a donut
          Dave would you like a donut? Yes 
          John would you do 10 push-ups so Dave could have a donut
          Jared woud you like a donut? Yes
          John would you do 10 push-ups so Jared can have a donut
          Brody would You like a donut? No thinking that if he answered no John wouldn't need to do push-ups.
          John would you do 10 push-ups for a donut that Brody doesn't want. Bro. Mac placed the donut on the corner of his desk.
          Jennifer would you like a donut? No
          John would you do 10 push-ups for a donut that Jennifer doesn't want. Bro. Mac placed the donut on the corner of his desk.
Then brother Mac got to Jason. Now Jason was the captain of the football team popular and all that.
          Jason would you like a donut? Yea but I'll do the push-ups. Bro. Mac said Ok you have a 1,000 to do. Jason looked at him and said "I can't do that many push-ups" John, will you do 10 push-ups so Jason can have a donut?
          Sena would you like a donut? No, but he doesn't need to do the push-ups. John would you do 10 push-ups for a donut that Sena doesn't want. By now John was struggling on the push-ups beads of sweat started to form on his face. His skin color had changed from white to bright red.
Bro. Mac continued on.
          Crystal      yes
           Lisa         no
           Misty       yes
           Rob         yes
           Clint        yes
           Nick        no
As John continued to do push-ups. You could tell every push-up was more and more agonizing. His body began to shake.
           Bro. Mac continued on 
           Amanda   no
           Aaron      yes
As the class watched John was nearing the end.
           Alison would you like a donut? Yes as tear ran down her cheek.
           John would you do 10 push-ups so Alison can have a donut.
           Brenda would you like a donut? Yes as tears ran down her face.  
           John would you do 10 push-ups so Brenda can have a donut.
John had finally finished. His weak and frail body struggled to stand from doing well over 300 push-ups as he staggered to his feet. Eric a classmate not in the church had just come to the door. He was running late. The class had noticed him and blurted NO! don't come in. For fear that John couldn't do 10 more push-ups Eric stopped.
           Then a small voice whispered from the back corner of the room. No it's ok let him come in. John got down on the floor and began to do the 10 push-ups. The push-ups that he had done before had taken its toll on his body. He began to cry as he did the last 5. As he finished he staggered to stand up and noticed that everyone was watching him and not one person had a dry eye in the room!
   
           That day Bro. Mac's class had gained a greater testimony of the Savior.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Mahalo nui loa and Faafetai tele lava to the Ohana

We are grateful for this family blog.  Our parents raised us to be proud of our polynesian heritage but to always remember our eternal heritage.  That we are all children of our Heavenly Father and someday can be together as a family forever.  Dad passing on mom's birthday 11/29/2011 has just confirmed to us that they are with one another and that someday it will be our turn. The three things we most remember about our dad is that 1. You want it, you got it toyota. 2. Never give up cause when one closes another opens 3. Get an education(of course his kids still working on that).

An early memory I have as a family was when we went to the Laie, Hawaii temple to seal Eric to us. Nei,Eric and I were waiting in a waiting area in the temple.  We were all in white and Eric was screaming cuz mom and dad were not with us, but when we were finally able to come together with Dad and mom I felt peace and Eric stopped crying.  Someday I know this scene will happen again.  We will be reunited with them again on the other side.  I look forward to that happy day.

My dad may not have been a perfect man but I realize that none of us are perfect. What I will always remember most about him is that when I got divorced he not only was a grandfather to my girls but a father figure who loved them. He was there for both their births, graduations, school plays, school projects and just there for my girls. Besides being papa he was dad especially to my Niue. They laughed together, played together, talked together, sang together and when my Niue was about to get lickens my dad shielded her. I will be forever grateful to him for the love he gave my children when they needed it. He taught me that family is important, that when the world and friends leave you behind family will be there. My parents are together forever now. They had their own birthday celebration and we weren't invited...When I told a friend about my dad passing on my mothers birthday she said, "How romantic." I never looked at it that way. They will be buried in the area Eternal Love at the Valley of Temples. Those that know my parents story would so understand. As an adult I understand the love they have now. 

Thank you Dino for this blog and to both you and Teura for your love and support.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

A HUI HOU

                                            Uncle Aiva and Aunty Nei together again <3

To Our Filiaga and Malufau ‘Ohana,

Our love and prayers are with all of you at the passing of your beloved father, grandfather and our uncle. We will miss him for a time but, we know that he is now with his eternal companion on the other side of the veil and is so happy to be free from the pains of his mortal body and this frail existence. You have all worked very hard to care for your parents/grandparents in their darkest hours of need, giving of yourselves unselfishly. You have all been a great example to the rest of us, as we have watched you work and serve your parents so diligently. Here is a poem that reminded me of all of you.......


I Have Not Gone

You think I've gone, that I am dead, and life has lost its will,
But look around, I am right there, living with you still
I watch your tears, I feel your pain - I see the things you do
I weep as well, each time you cry, my soul, it lives with you
 
It gives such joy to hear you laugh, and do the things you do
And when you smile o'er by gone days, I smile right with you too
For we're still one, just you and me, one mind, one soul, one being
Walking forward into life, though only you are seen
 
And in the stillness of the night, when the pain it really starts
Stretch out a little with your mind and draw me to your heart
For I am always right in there, always by your side
For you have been, all my life's days, my joy, my love my pride.
Author unknown 

Never forget how special you all are to your parents/grandparents. You certainly all are their joy, love and pride. They will continue to be with you and watch over you, for you are their greatest treasure. Remember, they can do more for the family on the other side of the veil than they were ever able to do here. Last of all, your parents/grandparents will tell you this one day for themselves but, until then they would want me to tell you "THANK YOU" from the bottom of their hearts for being their doctor, nurse, pharmacist, chauffeur and more.....you have all made them so happy and proud:)

May the words of this song bring all of you great comfort..............Love Dino

The song sung at President Gordon B. Hinckley’s funeral entitled “What Is This Thing That Men Call Death” was indeed a poem written by the prophet. Nobody knows when he wrote it, but when Janice Kapp Perry’s niece was fighting cancer, she asked permission from President Hinckley to print the poem on her funeral program. She received a nice letter from the prophet’s secretary saying she was welcome to do so and he told her he would remember her in his prayers. She then asked her aunt to set the poem to music and when that was done, Janice sent a copy to President Hinckley’s office for approval. 
He died soon after, but it seemed the poem and the music was not meant to go with him to the next life but to stay here on earth to comfort many more souls. 

What is this thing that men call death?
What is this thing that men call death?
This quiet passing in the night?
ʻTis not the end but genesis
Of better worlds and greater light

O God, touch Thou my aching heart
And calm my troubled, haunting fears
Let hope and faith, transcendent, pure
Give strength and peace beyond my tears.

There is no death, but only change
With recompense for vicʻtry won
The gift of Him who loved all men
The Son of God, the Holy One.

Please post your thoughts, feelings, and fondest memories or stories of Uncle Aiva:


I miss Uncle Aiva so much and I hope the family love him. I know you miss him. 
Ava 


What I remember about Uncle Aiva was that when he and my dad would see each other they would call out and greet one another with, "Makasipi", and crack up. I never knew what that meant until I finally asked my dad about it the other day. He laughed and said that it meant cockeye . I knew by the way they always got a kick out of it that it must be something funny;)    
Dino

Whenever we came over to Oahu to visit, I remember Uncle always dressed nicely in his aloha shirt and slacks.   As soon as he would see us, he would always offer juice, the meadow gold carton juice in grape, orange, or fruit punch, and food.  We would never go hungry there at the Aiea house.  Even now, whenever I see that carton of juice in the store or anywhere, I always think of Uncle Aiva.
Lohi


I remember whenever  we would visit or stay at uncleʻs house he would always come out of the room with his lavalava on.  He would give us hugs and then ask if we wanted something to eat. If there wasnʻt anything to eat he would always order pizza. After dinner there was always the good ice cream for eat (Haagen Dazs). I always remember the goodies Uncle would bring home and leave all over the table. My favorite was the twinkies.
Kana